Introducing LIIFT4 - The NEW 4 day/week workout program

Jul 6, 2018


INTRODUCING LIIFT4
LIIFT4 is a combination of weight-lifting and high intensity interval training (HIIT) cardio to tone, build learn muscle, and burn fat. The moves are based on basic lifting techniques that let you isolate, stabilize and focus each rep on the muscle group you’re working.  This program is for ALL fitness levels and includes a modifier if needed.
PROGRAM DETAILS
8 weeks
4 workouts a week
3 days off to rest or stretch
Every workout is different
30-40 minutes a day
Simple, flexible eating plan (with a "cheat day" included)
EQUIPMENT REQUIRED
A set of light, medium, and heavy dumbbells (depending on your fitness level) OR Resistance Bands and Band Handles (Included in all LIIFT4 offers, except the LIIFT4 VIP Early Access-Digital Only offer).  I personally use a set of 5 lbs for my light weights and 10-15 lbs for my heavy weights.
liift4 results

LIIFT4 will be available exclusively on Beachbody On Demand with VIP early access starting in July.  As a busy, working mom, this is the PERFECT WORKOUT for summer!  Short & sweet and allows for cheats (because I love my wine & pizza)! #momlife


Join us in the Exclusive LIIFT4 Test Group with us on July 9 where you'll get to do this program from start to finish with an entire group of people on the same mission and holding each another accountable.  We are going to be following the LIIFT4 food plan and using Shakeology or The Performance for this 8-week group.  Message me on Facebook or apply below to join us!  So excited for this!!!!!

Change the way you look at food & lose weight with 2B Mindset!

Apr 25, 2018



If you are someone who has ever struggled with....
Emotional eating
Yo-yo dieting
Portion control
Overeating / binge eating
Losing weight only to gain it all back
Food addictions
Not knowing what to eat
Unhealthy eat while traveling or dining out
Obesity or family history of being overweight
Inability to lose those last 5-15 pounds
Inability to exercise
Want to lose weight but don't like to exercise 
Or love your exercise routine but just need a nutrition plan?





WHO IS THIS PROGRAM FOR: 

  • People who want to lose weight, but don’t like to exercise
  • Exercise but struggle with their nutrition and do not see the weight loss results they want
  • Love food, love to eat big portions, and rarely feel full
  • Are tired of yo-yo dieting but want to maintain their lifestyle
  • Want an easy-to-follow way to lose weight without strict rules, like cutting food groups, counting calories or eating small portions 
  • Cannot exercise due to injury/illness but want to lose (or maintain) weight through better eating habits
  • Have experienced emotional eating and want to be free from obsessing about food and feeling overwhelmed by food choices




FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

Can I exercise and use 2B Mindset?
Yes. Exercise is not required for the program but is considered “extra credit.” I will personally be doing the Master's Hammer & Chisel lifting/cardio program by Autumn Calabrese & Sagi Kalev with my current accountability group.
Can I use Shakeology with this program?
Yes. Ilana recommends using Shakeology with 2B Mindset. I will be incorporating the Vegan Chocolate Shakeology, which I haven't gone a day without since 2013!  BEACHBAR Snack Bars and Shakeology Boosts are also recommended with this program.
Can pregnant or nursing mothers do the 2B Mindset program?
2B Mindset is a weight loss program. Since pregnant mothers should be gaining weight and not losing weight, it is not advised that they follow 2B Mindset during pregnancy.  For breastfeeding mothers, La Leche League International advises to wait at least two months before making any drastic effort to lose weight in order to allow your body to recover and ensure a steady milk supply. Keep in mind that breastfeeding women may naturally lose one to four pounds per month simply due to the amount of energy required to nurse in the first place.
Does the 2B Mindset nutrition plan use Portion Fix containers?
No. There are no containers used in this program.
Do I have give up sweets and alcohol during this program?

No.  Ilana will teach you how you can still have dessert and wine and still lose weight.
What digital tools are included with 2B Mindset?
There will be digital resources, including food lists, trackers, recipes and more available when you purchase the 2B Mindset. Additionally, all the printed program materials you receive with a 2B Mindset Challenge Pack or kit (i.e., Getting Started Guide, Go-to-Guide, etc.) are available digitally.
Does the standard Coach/VIP discount apply to 2B Mindset products? 
Yes, the 25% discount applies.

LAUNCH DATE & PROMOTIONS!
When is 2B Mindset Launching?
2B Mindset launches 5/2/2018 on the brand new "Nutrition tab on Beachbody On Demand. Starting 6/4/18, 2B Mindset will also be available on the Beachbody Nutrition+ App. Anyone who purchases 2B Mindset will have access to stream the program on the Nutrition tab on Beachbody On Demand, as well as the Beachbody Nutrition+ App.
2B Mindset is its own application and WILL NOT be included in current BOD memberships but can be used in conjunction with BOD if you choose to incorporate exercise.
What is the 2B Mindset Pre-App Launch Special Promotion?
From 5/2/2018 – 6/3/2018, all 2B Mindset Challenge Packs and kits will be on sale. During this period, 2B Mindset will be available to stream through a web browser only within the Nutrition tab of Beachbody On Demand. Purchasers will still receive access to stream 2B Mindset on the Beachbody Nutrition+ App when the app launches on 6/4/18. Inquire for more details!
THE BASIC 2B MINDSET KIT INCLUDES:  
• Permanent streaming access to all 2B Mindset videos, including:
- 21 short videos that teach the basic principles of the program, including how to understand food groups, what to eat and when, Ilana's proven secrets to a positive mindset, plus real-life strategies for managing any eating situation (i.e., eating out at restaurants, while on a trip, for vegans/vegetarians, etc.)
- 5 videos that help address the most common challenges to losing weight and establishing a healthier relationship with food
- 15 recipe videos where Ilana shows you how to cook her favorite time-saving, delicious and satisfying meals…in no time
• The Getting Started Guide, which includes step-by-step instructions for putting the program into action
• My Go-to-Guide, a handy resource that accompanies the videos, featuring food lists, grocery shopping lists and more
• 2B Mindset Recipes booklet, a collection of Ilana's favorite healthy meals, which can be printed for handy reference
• My Tracker, a 90-day journal you can use to track your meals, progress, and all the daily inputs that can influence your weight loss journey and success
• A special 30 oz water bottle that helps get you drinking more water with Ilana's motivational sayings to keep you on track
• Starting on 6/4/18, you'll have access to the Beachbody Nutrition+ App that lets you view all 2B Mindset videos (and program materials) on-the-go, and gives you a place to track your meals and your progress, right on your mobile device (iOS only)



2B MINDSET CHALLENGE PACK with SHAKEOLOGY:  
In this 2B Mindset challenge pack, you will get everything included in the Basic Kit PLUS Shakeology and a shaker cup in a challenge pack for only $160 during the promotional pricing.  PLUS, this will also enable you to sign up as a Coach or 25% Discount Member for FREE to have access to Ilana's Exclusive 2B Mindset Test Group where you'll get to to Ilana herself!  Ask me for details.

2B mindset challenge pack


2B MINDSET CHALLENGE PACK with SHAKEOLOGY + BEACHBODY OnDEMAND: 

In this 2B Mindset challenge pack, you will get everything included in the Basic Kit PLUS Shakeology and a shaker cup , PLUS a 1-year membership to All Access Beachbody OnDemand (BOD) where you'll have full access to every single workout program and food plan Beachbody's ever created for only $200 during the promotional pricing.  PLUS, this will also enable you to sign up as a Coach or 25% Discount Member for FREE to have access to Ilana's Exclusive 2B Mindset Test Group where you'll get to to Ilana herself!  Ask me for details.
Are there any other special offers available with 2B Mindset?
Yes. Purchasers of 2B Mindset Challenge Packs and kits are also qualified to receive a 10% discount on a 2 box pack of BEACHBARs, when purchased together. Also, all purchasers of 2B Mindset Challenge Packs qualify for an additional discount on 3-Day Refresh, when purchased together.
HOW DO I JOIN THE EXCLUSIVE TEST GROUP WITH YOU & ILANA?
There are two ways to join this exclusive coach-only test group in May and have full access to Ilana herself to guide you and answer your questions as you go, along with the support & accountability to an entire group doing the 2B Mindset right long with you! 

Option 1: When you purchase your 2B Mindset Challenge Pack, you now have the option to sign up as a Coach or the VIP Discount Program for FREE and JOIN the group!  This will also give you a 25% discount on future orders and you can cancel anytime.

Option 2: Already a Coach or Discount Member?  You simply just need to purchase the 2B Mindset program and you will be able to join!

I'M INTERESTED!  WHAT'S THE NEXT STEP?

CLICK HERE to fill out the Test Group form and I'll be in touch with you ASAP or feel free to message me on Facebook, Instagram or via email at jaclynstokes@hotmail.com!

                                                   

WE ARE ABOUT TO START!

Apr 17, 2018

JACLYN STOKES

TODAY is the LAST DAY to join our #SpringIntoSUMMER accountability group starting on Monday!  I'm about to head off to Mexico 🇲🇽 so if you want in, comment below // drop an emoji // or message me ASAP bc I will be unplugged while I'm away! 😎✌🏼

You can do ANY program in our new 30-day group OR join us in our exclusive Hammer & Chisel 60-day group. In BOTH groups you will get:


🌸 25-40 min workouts (you can do anywhere you have wifi)

🌸 A simple & flexible eating plan to follow (yes, you can still have 🍕🍷)
🌸 Free portion containers for your food & snacks
🌸 Shakeology to help you lose weight, stay full & curb cravings (for LESS THAN 1/2 price)
🌸 Daily support // motivation // accountability in a FUN group (THE best part!🙌🏼❤️)
🌸 Where we're all going to start & FINISH our programs TOGETHER!!!💪🏼
🌸 LOSE WEIGHT, TONE UP, and GET RESULTS just in time for summer baby!!! 👙🙌🏼
🌸 Feel free to invite your friends or fam to join you!


HOW TO JOIN?

Send me a message on Facebook or Instagram
OR
CLICK HERE to apply & I'll get back to you ASAP!


BEACHBARS ARE HERE!!!

Apr 6, 2018


Guess what came out today?! People have been asking Beachbody for BARS forever and now they’re here!

ONLY 150 calories
10g of protein
4g of fiber
And only 5g of sugar

And YES, they’re all natural, gluten-free and kid approved!  They’re available in Chocolate Peanut Butter & Chocolate Cherry Almond. SO yummy & even less calories than KIND bars. Perfect snack for on the go or in between meals!












These leggings are LIFE

Feb 27, 2018

90 degree by reflex leggings


OBSESSED with this new line of leggings I found. They fit & feel like lululemon but 1/4 the price! So comfy, cute and they have them in literally every color -- available in both capris & full length.  These are the high-waisted (which I LOVE) but they have them in a regular waist too.  Plus, new fun workout clothes are always motivation to workout, right?! 


P.S.  You're welcome! ;)

An Ectopic Pregnancy occurs in 1 out of 50 pregnancies....

Feb 22, 2018

ectopic pregnancy

An Ectopic Pregnancy occurs in 1 out of 50 pregnancies and is the leading cause of maternal death in early pregnancy. I had never even heard the words "ectopic pregnancy" until I nearly died from it exactly 2 years ago today. So today I'm sharing my story to raise awareness and hopefully help save someone else's life ❤️
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After trying to conceive for 18 months for a second child, we finally got a (+) pregnancy test. But this time, something felt different. I didn't have the initial excitement that I did with McKenna. And we didn't tell anyone. I wanted to wait until our first ultrasound to make sure everything was OK. Something just didn't completely feel right... it was almost like I knew that I wasn't going to be able to keep this pregnancy.

A test at our physician's office confirmed a (+) pregnancy, however, it was faint. At approximately 7 weeks, I began spotting and we were sent for an early ultrasound. It was then they sat us in a room filled with tissue boxes, and I knew what was coming. We were told I had miscarried.

Immediately, I was sent to get bloodwork. They said they had to check my hCG levels once a week to make sure they were going down accordingly with that of a "normal miscarriage". After 6 consecutive weeks of testing, each week my doctor called to tell me my levels were going down normally and they were almost at 0.

It was a Monday. My husband was out of town and my in-laws were on the way to my house to bring McKenna back from a sleepover. I was home alone and getting ready to do my workout. All of the sudden, I felt sweat pouring down my face and immediately felt sick to my stomach. Realizing I was about to pass out, I grabbed my phone which THANK GOD was right next me, laid down on the floor and called 911. I was in & out of consciousness and there was a sharp shooting pain in my stomach. Finally, the paramedics came through the door and my in-laws had arrived right behind them. I was barely conscious, hyperventilating, and when they asked what had happened, I told them I didn't know. There was a female EMT who asked if I was pregnant. I told her no, but that I recently miscarried and she said "I think I know what's happening."

They rushed me to Allegheny General Hospital for emergency surgery. Unaware, I was internally bleeding to death and had lost over 75% of my blood by the time I got to the hospital. Thankfully they quickly found out my blood type and immediately began blood transfusions while they waited for the OB Surgeon to arrive (as AGH doesn't have OB surgeons so they had to page a physician on-call from West Penn Hospital to come & do the surgery). Meanwhile, my husband was skiing in Utah when the doctor called and told him "Your wife's in critical condition and we can't get her stable. You need to get on a plane home like NOW!" The last thing I remember is my mother-in-law coming in the operating room, holding my hand and telling me I had to hang in there for McKenna. In that moment, I just prayed. Prayed that God would let me get through this to see my baby girl again. Then everything went white.

After surgery, they said I was extremely lucky to be alive. That had I not called 911 when I did or if I had gotten to the hospital 30 minutes later, I likely wouldn't be here. I received 4.5 blood transfusions that day, one (huge) incision, 18 staples down my stomach & spent 4 days in the hospital. I was told I had a full tubal rupture due to an ectopic pregnancy.

I was SO grateful to be alive, but I was so confused as to HOW DID THIS HAPPEN?! How did I have a pregnancy growing in my tube for 13 WEEKS with NO symptoms, NO pain? I was told I miscarried, I was told my levels were "normal" and the surgeon confirmed everything DID LOOK normal. She said my doctor did everything by the books and the only thing that would have confirmed it would have been an external ultrasound, which I wasn't able to do at the time bc I was only 7 weeks along OR if my doctor had given me a Methotrexate shot. It just seems crazy that there wasn't another way to PREVENT this.

Please know that I do not share this to scare anyone, but to raise awareness to in hopes prevent this from happening to you or someone you know. Sometimes I think we go through things so that our stories can help/save someone's else life. In the unfortunate event you should miscarry, please make sure to take extra precautions and talk to your doctor should you experience anything similar.


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The Perfect Omelette

Feb 7, 2018


This is my absolute favorite healthy brunch and it’s so easy to make.  👌🏻And since I get asked for recipes all the time, I figured I’d share!








WHAT I USED:
- 2 organic cage-free eggs (or egg whites)
- 2 all natural, turkey sausage links
- 4 organic cherry tomatoes or 1/4 red pepper (diced)
- a handful of organic spinach
- feta cheese
- avocado oil
- pepper

PREP:

- Thaw sausage links in boiling water
- Add 1 T. Avocado oil to pan on medium/high heat
- Add tomatoes or peppers and sausage, cook for 3 minutes
- Add spinach, cook & stir for an addtl 1 minute
- Remove veggies to a bowl, set aside
- Reduce heat to medium
- Add 1 tsp of avocado oil to pan
- Add eggs and cook for approx 2-3 minutes
- Add veggie mix on half & top with feta
- Flip the other half on top to close the omelette and cook for one minute
- Flip entire omelette to cook other side for one minute
- Top with pepper (optional) and serve w/ fruit and top



And voila.... the perfect omelette :)

Because I need sunshine in my life.....

Feb 6, 2018

circadian optics light therapy lamp



I was so excited to try this today!  I ordered this Light Therapy Lamp for my home office after coming back from the Bahamas last week & realizing I NEED sunshine in my life 24/7!!!😭 And If you live in Pittsburgh, you know the winter months are rough. These lamps are supposed to improve mood, boost energy, and help with Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).   I chose this one because of the ratings and because unlike the other ones, it doesn't look like an 80's makeup mirror.  LOL.  So far I love it!  If you're looking to try it, I highly recommend this one!

A dying 27-year old woman's letter to the world will change your approach on life

Jan 8, 2018

If you have time to read ONE thing today, this week, this month, this year... let it be THIS. Possibly the most beautiful story about LIFE, LOVE & what truly MATTERS. 
Rest in peace Holly... Your story will change the lives of many. 
PLEASE SHARE!
Holly Butcher

"A bit of life advice from Hol:

It’s a strange thing to realise and accept your mortality at 26 years young. It’s just one of those things you ignore. The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens. I always imagined myself growing old, wrinkled and grey- most likely caused by the beautiful family (lots of kiddies) I planned on building with the love of my life. I want that so bad it hurts.

That’s the thing about life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right.

I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life. I am happy.. I owe that to my loved ones. But the control is out of my hands.

I haven’t started this ‘note before I die’ so that death is feared - I like the fact that we are mostly ignorant to it’s inevitability.. Except when I want to talk about it and it is treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us.. That’s been a bit tough. I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember that we all have the same fate after it all so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullshit.

I have dropped lots of my thoughts below as I have had a lot of time to ponder life these last few months. Of course it’s the middle of the night when these random things pop in my head most!

Those times you are whinging about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively effect other people’s days.

Once you do that, get out there and take a freaking big breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in your lungs, look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; It is so beautiful. Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that - breathe.

You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling.

Let all that shit go.. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.

I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or about how hard it is to exercise - Be grateful you are physically able to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things ... until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them.

I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my major passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body- even if it isn’t your ideal size. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it.

Remember there are more aspects to good health than the physical body.. work just as hard on finding your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. That way you might realise just how insignificant and unimportant having this stupidly portrayed perfect social media body really is.. While on this topic, delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you any sense of feeling shit about yourself. Friend or not.. Be ruthless for your own well-being.

Be grateful for each day you don’t have pain and even the days where you are unwell with man flu, a sore back or a sprained ankle, accept it is shit but be thankful it isn’t life threatening and will go away.

Whinge less, people! .. And help each other more.

Give, give, give. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more. Since I have been sick, I have met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to all of these people.

It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end.. when you’re dying. It’s not a time you go out and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. It makes you think how silly it is that we think it is worth spending so much money on new clothes and ‘things’ in our lives.

Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewellery for that next wedding. 1. No-one cares if you wear the same thing twice 2. It feels good. Take them out for a meal, or better yet, cook them a meal. Shout their coffee. Give/ buy them a plant, a massage or a candle and tell them you love them when you give it to them.

Value other people’s time. Don’t keep them waiting because you are shit at being on time. Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too! Amen sister.

This year, our family agreed to do no presents and despite the tree looking rather sad and empty (I nearly cracked Christmas Eve!), it was so nice because people didn’t have the pressure of shopping and the effort went into writing a nice card for each other. Plus imagine my family trying to buy me a present knowing they would probably end up with it themselves.. strange! It might seem lame but those cards mean more to me than any impulse purchase could. Mind you, it was also easier to do in our house because we had no little kiddies there. Anyway, moral of the story- presents are not needed for a meaningful Christmas. Moving on.

Use your money on experiences.. Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material shit.

Put in the effort to do that day trip to the beach you keep putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your face with salt water.

Get amongst nature.

Try just enjoying and being in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of your phone. Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo.. enjoy the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.

Random rhetorical question. Are those several hours you spend doing your hair and make up each day or to go out for one night really worth it? I’ve never understood this about females 🤔.

Get up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the beautiful colours the sun makes as it rises.

Listen to music.. really listen. Music is therapy. Old is best.

Cuddle your dog. Far out, I will miss that.

Talk to your friends. Put down your phone. Are they doing okay?

Travel if it’s your desire, don’t if it’s not.

Work to live, don’t live to work.

Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy.

Eat the cake. Zero guilt.

Say no to things you really don’t want to do.

Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life.. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay.

Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have.

Also, remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it - in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t waste it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be more true.

Anyway, that’s just this one young gals life advice. Take it or leave it, I don’t mind!

Oh and one last thing, if you can, do a good deed for humanity (and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will make you feel good with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is something that is so overlooked considering every donation can save 3 lives! That is a massive impact each person can have and the process really is so simple.

Blood donation (more bags than I could keep up with counting) helped keep me alive for an extra year - a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend it here on Earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life.

..’Til we meet again.

Hol

Xoxo”

That’s the thing about life; It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right. 
I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life. I am happy.. I owe that to my loved ones. But the control is out of my hands.
I haven’t started this ‘note before I die’ so that death is feared - I like the fact that we are mostly ignorant to it’s inevitability.. Except when I want to talk about it and it is treated like a ‘taboo’ topic that will never happen to any of us.. That’s been a bit tough. I just want people to stop worrying so much about the small, meaningless stresses in life and try to remember that we all have the same fate after it all so do what you can to make your time feel worthy and great, minus the bullshit.
I have dropped lots of my thoughts below as I have had a lot of time to ponder life these last few months. Of course it’s the middle of the night when these random things pop in my head most! 
Those times you are whinging about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just think about someone who is really facing a problem. Be grateful for your minor issue and get over it. It’s okay to acknowledge that something is annoying but try not to carry on about it and negatively effect other people’s days. 
Once you do that, get out there and take a freaking big breath of that fresh Aussie air deep in your lungs, look at how blue the sky is and how green the trees are; It is so beautiful. Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that - breathe. 
You might have got caught in bad traffic today, or had a bad sleep because your beautiful babies kept you awake, or your hairdresser cut your hair too short. Your new fake nails might have got a chip, your boobs are too small, or you have cellulite on your arse and your belly is wobbling.

Let all that shit go.. I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole. I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more. 

I hear people complaining about how terrible work is or about how hard it is to exercise - Be grateful you are physically able to. Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things ... until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them. 

I tried to live a healthy life, in fact, that was probably my major passion. Appreciate your good health and functioning body- even if it isn’t your ideal size. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it. 
Remember there are more aspects to good health than the physical body.. work just as hard on finding your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. That way you might realise just how insignificant and unimportant having this stupidly portrayed perfect social media body really is.. While on this topic, delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you any sense of feeling shit about yourself. Friend or not.. Be ruthless for your own well-being. 

Be grateful for each day you don’t have pain and even the days where you are unwell with man flu, a sore back or a sprained ankle, accept it is shit but be thankful it isn’t life threatening and will go away. 

Whinge less, people! .. And help each other more. 

Give, give, give. It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more. Since I have been sick, I have met the most incredibly giving and kind people and been the receiver of the most thoughtful and loving words and support from my family, friends and strangers; More than I could I ever give in return. I will never forget this and will be forever grateful to all of these people. 
It is a weird thing having money to spend at the end.. when you’re dying. It’s not a time you go out and buy material things that you usually would, like a new dress. It makes you think how silly it is that we think it is worth spending so much money on new clothes and ‘things’ in our lives. 

Buy your friend something kind instead of another dress, beauty product or jewellery for that next wedding. 1. No-one cares if you wear the same thing twice 2. It feels good. Take them out for a meal, or better yet, cook them a meal. Shout their coffee. Give/ buy them a plant, a massage or a candle and tell them you love them when you give it to them. 
Value other people’s time. Don’t keep them waiting because you are shit at being on time. Get ready earlier if you are one of those people and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate. You will gain respect too! Amen sister. 

This year, our family agreed to do no presents and despite the tree looking rather sad and empty (I nearly cracked Christmas Eve!), it was so nice because people didn’t have the pressure of shopping and the effort went into writing a nice card for each other. Plus imagine my family trying to buy me a present knowing they would probably end up with it themselves.. strange! It might seem lame but those cards mean more to me than any impulse purchase could. Mind you, it was also easier to do in our house because we had no little kiddies there. Anyway, moral of the story- presents are not needed for a meaningful Christmas. Moving on. 

Use your money on experiences.. Or at least don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material shit. 

Put in the effort to do that day trip to the beach you keep putting off. Dip your feet in the water and dig your toes in the sand. Wet your face with salt water. 
Get amongst nature.

Try just enjoying and being in moments rather than capturing them through the screen of your phone. Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo.. enjoy the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else. 
Random rhetorical question. Are those several hours you spend doing your hair and make up each day or to go out for one night really worth it? I’ve never understood this about females 🤔.

Get up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the beautiful colours the sun makes as it rises.

Listen to music.. really listen. Music is therapy. Old is best.
Cuddle your dog. Far out, I will miss that. 
Talk to your friends. Put down your phone. Are they doing okay?
Travel if it’s your desire, don’t if it’s not.
Work to live, don’t live to work. 
Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy. 
Eat the cake. Zero guilt. 
Say no to things you really don’t want to do. 
Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life.. you might want a mediocre life and that is so okay. 
Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have. 

Also, remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it - in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t waste it being miserable. I know that is said all the time but it couldn’t be more true.

Anyway, that’s just this one young gals life advice. Take it or leave it, I don’t mind! 
Oh and one last thing, if you can, do a good deed for humanity (and myself) and start regularly donating blood. It will make you feel good with the added bonus of saving lives. I feel like it is something that is so overlooked considering every donation can save 3 lives! That is a massive impact each person can have and the process really is so simple. 
Blood donation (more bags than I could keep up with counting) helped keep me alive for an extra year - a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend it here on Earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life.
..’Til we meet again.

Hol
 
Xoxo”